Yes, that is a pretty ring on your finger.
There are some things about getting engaged you just don’t find out about until it happens to you.
It doesn’t matter how long you and your partner have been dating for, or how many times you’ve been involved in other weddings. These are some truths you only find out when you get engaged.
We know you’ve probably dreamt about the proposal and have a fantasy in your head. Maybe you’re both in your favourite place, you’ve just had your hair done and you’re wearing a dress that makes you look amazing. Most of the time it just doesn’t go to plan. For instance, I was on my parent’s couch in my pyjamas with no make-up on!
Top Tip: Whether it happened in a similar way to mine or you were standing on top of a mountain looking out at the scenery, it’s your story. Remember that. And it’s way better than any of the situations you dreamed up in your head.
Don’t be surprised when you get some funny looks from people because you’re just staring down at your hand. You’ve got this beautiful ring on your finger. And it’s on the most important finger of all. That’s enough to make you want to look at it all the time!
Top Tip: Everyone is going to want to see the ring, so either paint your nails yourself or get a manicure (and don’t look at it too much when you’re crossing a road!)
Getting engaged means one thing – a proposal story! It’s one of the first questions people will ask you so get used to it.
Top Tip: Retelling the story is part of the fun – enjoy it!
Even if the two of you haven’t talked about it together or haven’t set a date, people will already want to know all the details. It’s a good thing because everyone is so excited for you. But it can be overwhelming when you’re being asked about the venue and your colour scheme when you haven’t even started planning.
Top Tip: If you’ve no idea about any of the wedding details, just say that you’re going to take your time and enjoy being engaged for now.
Depending on the type of proposal your partner is planning, they might need some help figuring out logistics. That means they might require some support from a family member or two. Both my parents and my hairdresser knew about my proposal before it happened!
Top Tip: If you’re suspicious about something, try not to dig into it. You don’t want to ruin the surprise.
Some people like to think they’re the expert when they’ve planned a wedding. You’ll also hear a lot of things you “should do” or that some things “have to be a certain way”.
Top Tip: It’s your wedding! If people offer your advice, you don’t have to take it on board. Just accept it and either use their advice or move on. You can create the wedding day you both want.
Whenever you watch Father of the Bride or My Best Friend’s Wedding, it’s likely you’ll get a bit more emotional than normal.
Top Tip: Embrace it. You’re engaged and you’re allowed to enjoy this guilty wedding pleasure with your girl squad (tissues at the ready!)
Once you’re engaged, it’s difficult for you not to think about the wedding, even if you’ve planned to have a long engagement. Especially once you’ve gotten over the initial shock of getting engaged!
Top Tip: Don’t be afraid to start planning things early, especially if there are certain aspects of your wedding you’re already sure about. Just take each other’s feelings into account and make sure you’re both on the same page.
Getting engaged is so exciting, but it’s also a big commitment. You’ve just agreed to spend the rest of your life with someone.
Top Tip: Take time to enjoy being engaged and adjust to this new lifestyle. Discuss certain things about the wedding like if you want to get married in a church and so on. If you both agree on everything it’ll make planning the wedding so much easier and more meaningful too.
If you’ve recently got engaged and you want help planning your wedding, book an appointment at The Wedding Gallery here.