You’ve got an important job so let’s make sure you get it right.
It’s such an honour to be asked by the bride to be the chief bridesmaid. This isn’t a question you get asked every day. But it can also be quite daunting. So if you’re feeling anxious, worried or unprepared, this is our ultimate guide for you.
As a chief bridesmaid, the bride is trusting you to do two main things: help with the wedding planning and take charge of her hen do. (Hint – don’t leave her stranded somewhere!) You’ll be called upon for wedding tasks such as putting the favours together, writing the invitations and maybe even helping to assemble the table plan.
The way to become the best chief bridesmaid ever is to be supportive without being intrusive, helping out on the day and always being available for anything wedding-related.
Here’s a guide on all of your duties and what you can expect to be doing for the bride.
Your main duty as the chief bridesmaid is to be the bride’s personal assistant. She’ll need you to be there if quotes need chasing or to calm her down when she’s suffering from the very real wedding stress.
One big part of wedding planning you could be asked to help with is the wedding dress. The bride will want you to be an honest and reliable critic. Ask her what kind of style she’s looking for and then be constructive when feeding back about what suits her.
If she does start asking negative questions, such as “does my bum look big in this?”, try and be positive. So your response could be: “it looks lovely, but I prefer a fuller skirt on you – An A-line style is so flattering.”
The bride might also embark on a new fitness and beauty regime in the lead up to the wedding. This is an area where she’ll love your support. Is she starting an exercise class once a week? Go with her and make it a date night for the two of you!
As a chief bridesmaid, you’ll also be required to attend the wedding rehearsal. This is so you know where you and other members of the bridal party should stand, when you should sit down and the overall structure of the ceremony.
To some extent, your role will involve taking charge of the other bridesmaids too. It’ll be your job to keep them informed about any upcoming fittings, appointments or any other items they need to get (jewellery, shoes, a gift for the bride, etc.) If any of them have specific tasks to perform, whether it’s performing a reading or preparing something for the wedding in advance, you should make sure they’re on track.
Then hen do is all up to you so as chief bridesmaid, it’s your chance to shine and give the bride a real send off. First of all, be sure to organise something she will actually enjoy – have a chat with her about what she would or wouldn’t like. If you and the other bridesmaids would love a stripper but the bride would hate it, don’t do it. There are plenty of options: go away for the weekend, book a restaurant, have a sleepover, go quad biking or have afternoon tea at The Ritz.
For more ideas for some great hen parties, check out this list right here.
Why not plan a girly day out and book in a makeover somewhere? It’s such a fun way to spend a morning or afternoon. You could all try out some new brands or products to see what suits your best or just enjoy yourself.
Another great idea is to plan a spa day for a bridal shower for the bride, bridesmaids and the bride’s mum. If you plan it close enough to the wedding day, it could be a pre-hen night pamper session. You could all get a manicure, pedicure and massage so you’re all ready for the big event.
Here’s a full list of what you need for your emergency kit as a chief bridesmaid. You won’t need most of it until after the ceremony, but it’s a good idea to keep it close during the reception if you need it.
The final thing you want to do as a chief bridesmaid is to make sure all the guests have enough confetti and tell them when it’s the right time to throw it. And get yourself to the front for that all-important confetti shot!
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