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This Is How To Pick The Perfect First Dance Song

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This Is How To Pick The Perfect Wedding Song For Your First Dance

Have you ever thought about what you’d pick for your first dance song? Chances are, you’ve either always known or you have absolutely no idea…which is exactly why you’re reading this right now.

So if you’re stuck when it comes to picking a first dance song, don’t worry, because we know there is a perfect song out there for you. All you need to do is find it. And we’re here to help.

But where do you begin? One of the best ideas is to just start paying more attention to the songs you hear every single day. If you like the sound of one, make a note of it. Then you’ve got a list of potential ones that you can work with.

It’s also a good idea to practice dancing to each song. We know it sounds silly, but you need to make sure the song is danceable!

That’s your starting point. Now when it comes to narrowing down your listing and actually picking your first dance song, here are some tips.

Remember your story

You want to pick a first dance song that means something to you as a couple. If you have “your song” then great, But if you don’t it’s time to go back down memory lane.

Think of the big moments in your life. Was there a particular song playing then? Is there a song that reminds you of your relationship together? Was there a song playing when you met? Or when you first said the words “I love you”? Or maybe you can remember a song from a holiday you took together, a film you saw together or the first summer you spent together.

If you’re still stuck, then talk to people. If your parents or your grandparents’ marriage is an inspiration to you, ask them what they had for their first dance song. It might give you some other ideas, or you might want to choose to use the same on in their honour.

Think about different era’s

It might be that you and your partner absolutely adore a certain era of music. It’s actually great to pick a song from a certain era because chances are, it’s already a hit and you’ll be able to listen to it for years to come.

You might prefer to pick a contemporary song or even one that nobody has heard before. Whatever you choose, try and go for a selection of old and new music.

Consider your wedding style

If you’re in the middle of planning a wedding like me, then I bet you know your wedding style like the back of your hand. Could you pick a song to match that? If you’re planning an outdoor event, then a folk song would be perfect. Or if you’re hosting your wedding in a grand ballroom, then a big bang ballad is what you need!

Think about what you like to dance to

The style of dancing is also really important to consider because you’ve got to be comfortable. Your first dance is quite a big thing because everyone is watching, so talking to each other about what will make you feel comfortable is a good place to start.

If you’re very nervous, you could always take dance lessons and even surprise your guests with a little routine. And don’t forget the bride’s dress – keep that in mind in terms of what movements will be possible!

Once you’ve got the broad list of things to consider for your first dance song, there are just a few other points you won’t want to forget about.

Song lyrics

Honestly. You’ve got to be careful here! “I Will Always Love You” is one of the most popular wedding songs out there. But did you know it’s actually about a break-up?

Go beyond the song and listen to the lyrics to make sure you’re picking a song about the celebration of love! And Every breath you take? Yep, that’s a no-go too.

Length of the song

There’s nothing worse for you and your guests than a first dance song that seems to last forever. Especially if you’re just swaying back and forth. That’s why it’s a great idea to get other people dancing after the first chorus, or surprise people with a mash-up!

Check with the band

If you know you have a particular first dance song in mind, check with your band that they can actually play it. Not just that, but be sure you like their version too.


There you have it! Some great ways of choosing the perfect first dance song for you. If you’ve found your first dance song, but you’re looking for a DJ or band, be sure to book an appointment with us so we can show you live clips of the ones we love.

By Holly Sutton

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