Yes, it's definitely possible.
A piece of advice every mother will give their daughter is this: you’re marrying him, not his family.
But that doesn’t mean they don’t matter when it comes to the planning process, even if you want the perfect wedding.
Showing respect to your in-laws when planning your perfect wedding is so important. Not only to make sure you have the best day ever but to also build a positive relationship with them for the future.
So in order to keep your in-laws happy, we’re sharing some of our best tips with you today. And yes, you can still have the wedding of your dreams.
Even if you dislike your future in-laws, you have to remember that they raised the person you’re going to marry. So it’s important to accept them for who they are and not put unreasonable expectations on them. Parents are likely not going to change after all this time. It can be so easy to pick out the negatives, especially when you’re planning your perfect wedding. But try your best to focus on the positives.
Sometimes, tradition can be important to some parents, especially when it comes to religion. Talk to both sets of parents about the things that matter the most to them on the big day. If your parents want you to get married in a church and you agree, but your in-laws don’t, that’s a conversation you need to have with them. Be open, listen to their concerns and see what you can do. Just remember – you’re planning the perfect wedding for you.
You could easily have a traditional wedding with a twist by bringing in a modern approach. Just be mindful of your choices and try to come to a decision that satisfies everyone.
If both sets of parents are happy to contribute to the cost of the wedding, that will save you a lot of trouble down the road. But you need to have that conversation. Ideally, you want to all be contributing an equal amount. If one set of parents is contributing more money, they might feel like they have more say in decisions. Meet with each set of parents separately to have that discussion with them and their role in the planning.
Going through the process of listening and planning together can lead to a really strong relationship further down the line. If you use wedding planning as a way to spend time with them that will build your relationship.
No matter what your relationship with your in-laws, get them involved in the planning of your perfect wedding. You can make all the big decisions of course, but there’s no harm in asking for their opinion. This is a pretty ideal solution and makes them feel good about making an impactful decision.
Kickstart the process to plan your perfect wedding by booking an appointment to visit The Wedding Gallery today!