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This Is The Traditional Wedding Speech Running Order

This is your ultimate guide to the running order of speeches.

This Is The Traditional Wedding Speech Running Order

When it comes to your wedding day, it’s important to know who speaks when. So we’ve got a full breakdown of the running order for you right here.

What’s the traditional wedding speech running order? Who introduces each speaker? Who toasts the bridesmaids? As you can probably imagine, there’s a lot more to delivering a wedding speech than planning what you want to say.

But it’s actually becoming a lot more common for the bride and groom to create their own running order to suit their particular situation. It might be that a bride’s father is absent, for example, or the bride herself may want to speak.

So, before you read the traditional wedding speech running order below, remember that you can rejig it if you want to. This is purely a loose guide, here for your knowledge and information.

A Few Pointers

It’s very common for the groom to speak first, especially if the bride and groom are planning the wedding.

If the father-of-the-bride is not present, someone else might speak in his place. This could be a friend of the family, a bridesmaid, or the bride herself.

Of course, as the roles change, so does the content of the speeches. But it doesn’t have to be confusing. As long as you are familiar with your particular running order, it’ll be fine.

Traditional Wedding Speech Running Order

Father of the bride

Traditionally, the father-of-the-bride speaks first. He usually does the following in his speech:

  • Welcomes the guests (including the groom’s family)
  • Thanks everyone for coming
  • Talks about his daughter and her new husband
  • Toasts the happy couple

The groom

The groom then follows, who responds to the father-of-the-bride’s toast. In his speech, he will also:

  • Thank the hosts and everyone else who has helped
  • Say a few words about his new wife
  • Toast the bridesmaids

The best man

The best man then responds to the groom’s toast. Traditionally he should talk about:

  • The groom
  • How he knows him
  • Mention the bride
  • Throw in a few embarrassing stories that will get a laugh

When the groom is planning and writing his speech, he may want to ask the following about the wedding speech running order:

  • Who is speaking immediately before you? It could be the master of ceremonies, your father-in-law or your bride.
  • How will they finish their speeches? This will help you plan your own introduction by referencing what they’ve just said.
  • Will they introduce you? Again, you’ll need to reference this at the beginning of your speech.
  • What sort of tone will they use? You don’t want to drastically change the tone.
  • How long will it be after their speech before you stand up?
  • What will they be talking about?

Once the groom has found out the answers to these questions, he can shape his speech around them. For instance, if the bride’s father has previously passed away, he can use that as a link to a toast to absent friends.

If the bride is speaking last, after the groom, he could joke about her always having the last word. And if the best man is speaking before the groom, it might be better for him to toast the bridesmaids instead.

Occasionally, the content of wedding speeches can overlap. In order to avoid this on your big day, the groom should check with the father-of-the-bride and best man to make sure they’re all planning to tell different anecdotes.

There are lots of possibilities, so have some fun with them! Just make sure you know your place in the wedding speech running order and everything will run smoothly.

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By Holly Sutton

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This is the traditional wedding speech running order