Don’t forget or neglect these important things in the lead up to your wedding day.
From the practical to the psychological, we address 10 of the most common stresses or oversights brides and grooms can experience. Read on for our pre-wedding advice.
In the lead up to your wedding day, it can be easy to lose your head and forget some really important things. Below, we list some of the most important things to consider ahead of the big day and how to cope with them. But there’s one common theme running throughout: the more you panic or worry about something, the less you’ll enjoy the whole experience!
Hang onto your sense of humour. We’d recommend watching Bridesmaids, My Greek Wedding and Mamma Mia for extreme (and hilarious) movies about pre-wedding madness. Keep reminding yourself not to take things too seriously. At the end of the day, you’re getting married to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Nothing else matters as much as that.
If you want to look your best on your wedding day, it’s worth considering what you eat and drink in the lead up to it. Avoid alcohol, drink plenty of water, and eat lots of antioxidant-rich foods – all of these could work wonders on your skin. There are also hardcore skincare regimes that can produce brilliant results if you follow them and we love a facial if you want to go for a good pamper.
Sleep is another crucial contributor to looking and feeling your best. Try to get a good night’s sleep the night before the big day and, if you’re prone to anxiety, we’ve got some tips for the morning of your wedding too.
There are so many ways to make yourself feel more confident in your body on the big day. While it is absolutely not essential (the person you’re marrying wants to marry you for you), lots of women still want to take up sporty activities before the wedding. The best thing you can do is finding a class that you can enjoy. More importantly, exercise boots happy hormones like serotonin, which is a great reason to do it, especially if you’re prone to stress.
Don’t buy underwear too far in advance. Lots of women’s breasts are one of the first things to change size if they gain or lose weight, so it’s worth holding off buying your lingerie until nearer the day. You don’t want a clash with your dress!
Plus, if you haven’t bought your wedding gown, you shouldn’t even be thinking about what goes underneath it yet. But if you’re planning to wear something lovely on your wedding night and/or honeymoon, you could start browsing earlier on in the planning process.
It might sound cliche, but you really should just look the best version of yourself on your wedding day. Ask any bridal stylist, boutique owner or designer and they’ll tell you to wear an outfit that makes you look and feel amazing, not something that isn’t you.
Please please don’t wear something that you know will make a family member happy, even if it’s not quite what you love. We’re always surprised by how many brides either choose or reject a dress because mum does or doesn’t like it. She’s not wearing it!
Likewise, if your hair and make-up artist is getting too creative or putting on too many products, tell them. Don’t worry about it in silence. Your partner expects to marry the woman he or she got down on one knee for. Don’t shock them with a stranger on the day.
Don’t start overly worrying that your guests will feel awkward or uncomfortable at the wedding. You should be mindful of what guests care about and/or hate about weddings. But it’s not your job to manage interactions. Besides, if anyone doesn’t enjoy themselves on the day, that’s completely out of your control. All that counts is that you and your partner are happy.
You must ensure that everyone who helped you organise the day knows you are grateful. There’s a reason friendships can suffer during wedding planning (not that this should ever be the case). But it can be hard work for them too.
You’ll have family members and friends who’ve put their own time and money into your day. Don’t get distracted and forget to give them the thanks they deserve. Even if you think something is expected of your maid on honour, bridesmaids or mother-in-law, they didn’t have to do it. There are lots of bridesmaid and usher gift ideas out there. Giving them one is a simple way to show you’re truly appreciative.
It’s important not to completely neglect family members when planning or during the wedding day. Obviously, the day is about you and your partner. But remember that the family members you’re close to may simultaneously experience joy and a little grief when you get married.
Your sibling could be too shy to admit they feel abandoned. Your father could find the idea that you’ve officially flown the nest heartbreaking. And your mother, even if she knows and loves your partner, could still feel very protective and worry about the leap you’re about to take.
It’s not unfair for any of them to feel this way, just as it isn’t ‘wrong’ that you might be nervous about getting married. It’s a big step! What’s important is that you’re mindful of how loved ones can be feeling behind closed doors. And that they know they aren’t forgotten by you.
From start to finish, you need be as un-controlling as possible. Simply relaxing about things – from finding the perfect dress to what the weather will be like – will make the whole experience more enjoyable.
It’s likely you will feel different when you’re married. Many newly married brides say that, while they might not have expected it before the big day, being married has had a positive psychological, emotional and practical impact on them. It’s not just a bit of paper!